Why do people never tell you the truth about your appearence?

Some years ago I went to the dentist to have caps put on my rotten front teeth. As there was so much dental work to be done I was heavily sedated. When I 'came too' I believed the work was finished.





On getting home, I looked in the mirror and saw, what appeared to be, Frankenstein's front teeth! Not being particularly vain myself I though, 'oh well that must be it'. On showing them to my friends (knowing they didn't look that good) they said: 'they are fine', or, 'they are fantastic'! Next day they fell out....





On going back to the dentist I was told 'they were only temporary, and the real ones would be ready in a few days. So much for friends!





To cap it all (if you'll pardon the pun), yesterday I went into a local cafe for a bite to eat and I heard a child say to it's mother 'why are they letting that Goat eat in here'? Perplexed, I looked into a mirror, and, would you credit it, I was a Goat! Why didn't my friends tell me??

Why do people never tell you the truth about your appearence?
The ones I love are the ones who come up to you and say loudly oh that thing is back on your face again (cold sore) which takes your insides and hangs them out on the Sigfried Line! Yes, tact is everything. Then there are those wonderful souls who will not speak poorly to you because they do not want to have it returned in kind. Then there are the third and last and the ones I happen to value the most - like the pig who built of bricks - they tactfully come up to and whisper you have a piece of spinach between your eyes or wherever, but they do it with love and privacy and you just love them for it and you both laugh. No one is offended. Don't get me going on dentists. They are the most ignorant and arrogant bunch of people I have ever met which is inexcusable because they are also so well educated, especially in their craft. Nothing is so unbecoming as someone who is intelligent needing to insult or intimidate you with smart remarks when you are either in pain or feeling vulnerable in some other way, such as appearance, as you have hinted above, or take blatant financial advantage of you in such an unforgiveable way (300% markups). I am, however, convinced that one day, I will meet a good dentist who will not overcharge (gouge) me, and will do quality work in a way that I will not be embarrassed to speak about later. A dentist I can feel comfortable recommending to someone who is a friend. And not be worried I am about to lose a friend because of it. I once found one dentist who was someone to write home about but of course he charged far too much, he was greedy and price gouged rather obviously which was embarrassing again, because he was very intelligent, but so am I and I just felt so sorry for him to be trapped into such a rotten fraternity.... with all the negative karma that comes to anyone who abuses people in any way, but especially to those who financially abuse others - anyhow, now you know everything about everything I have any feelings about, and I hope it was a worthwhile glimpse.
Reply:well, if ur friends did tell u, u probably would hav been mad. so most people just say things to make u feel better.





but i do agree w/ u, a good friend should hav told you the truth about how you look. good luck w/ evrything else!
Reply:they just want u to feel good
Reply:they were trying to be polite- they knew you had put some money into this 'work' so they didnt want to dissapoint you by telling you it looked --bad...
Reply:Your TRUE friends would of told you... but perhaps they knew you really wanted to get your teeth done and didnt want you to be disappointed or upset!
Reply:was that child your daughter?


it's the sort of thing mine might say!!LOL!!!





i know what u mean tho.





if my mates look good, i usually tell them. if they don't, i am remarkably quiet!


if they look like they're about to die, i ask them if they are ok!!
Reply:You should turn this into a short film





fantastic material, you have real talent there





If it is for real sorry about your teeth, but it is a great story!
Reply:awww....i'm sorry...its easy for children to speak their minds...but the thing is...friends that see you, its hard for them cuz they don't want to hurt your fillins (pun on ur cap)...anyways...they just want u to have a positive self image...personally, i'd rather be told the truth then sugar coating it...but truth is most people are frosted cuz being blunt in a nice way is kinda hard....well i hope the two teeth the real ones that are ready will make u feel more happy about ur teeth...
Reply:Probably ur friends knew they (cap) were temporary arrangements and soon u would get the proper attachment. So there was no need in making u feel let down by your looks, since nothing could have been done. Kids say all sorts of things, you should not take them seriously. Theres great logic why children think and behave so, but that some other time. Cling on ur friends u got d best. dont loose them.
Reply:they don't wanna hurt you or they r afraid u can't handle the truth.
Reply:friends look after other friends feelings and don't want to hurt you. I agree that your friends are only looking out for you.
Reply:I am sorry, but I am craking up at what that kid said!! Children just say exactly what's on their mind. I remember a kid singing chocolate boy chocolate boy to me, when he saw my brown skin. Don't feel too bad. As for your friends, they just didn't want to upset you.
Reply:Because they are goats too and they cannot speak.